One of my favorite parts of being a coach is reintroducing my clients to their own "knowing". The kind of knowing that happens in the body rather than the brain. The kind of knowing that sends energized chills down your spine, causes you to breathe deeper, and allows you to see clearer. It has the comfort of a return home and the excitement of a fresh start all in one. The best part is that we are all born with this. Somewhere along the way, we lose touch with our “knowing”.
You stop listening when it tells you to do something different than your friends want you to do. You stop listening when it tells you that what your mom/dad/sister/brother/boyfriend/girlfriend is saying is true, despite how badly you want to disagree, even if it’s just to disagree. You stop listening when it tells you that being patient pays off, but you want what you want now.
There are many reasons why you stop listening (and ultimately stop trusting your knowing) but they all boil down to fear. Fear of disconnection, fear of being “wrong”, fear of not having enough, fear of not being enough. Your knowing gets it. And if you asked your knowing about those fears, it would say (with so much love) “You will connect with who you need to, when you need to,” “Of course you will be wrong, everyone is from time to time,” “You will get what you need when you need it,” and “You. Are. Enough.”
What do you already know that you are not trusting?