• Choose it or Change it

    For a very long time my grandparents had a pre-remote TV. Any time I wanted to change the channel or volume, I had to get up from the couch or floor, walk over to the TV and adjust it. Of course at the time I couldn’t appreciate the beauty of that old pre-remote TV. Because of the pace at which everyone is moving (and expected to move), I view taking the time and effort to consciously choose something as a luxury rather than inconvenience. Making conscious (without external pressure or internal reactivity) choices is a sign of mindfulness, power, and authenticity. Stepping away from the automatic responses and outdated belief systems that…

  • Keep Your Eyes on the Horizon

    Keep your eyes on the horizon. This phrase is used across a variety of disciplines including sailing, hiking, driving, and investing. In driving it means keeping your focus on farthest point of the road you can see (towards the horizon line) which enables you to see — and react to — what’s happening on the whole road rather than just the car in front of you. In coaching, “keep your eyes on the horizon” means keeping your mid-to-long-term goals in mind to help organize shorter-term goals. When you know what you want to accomplish in 3-6 months, it’s easier for you to set 1-month benchmarks that you can work towards…

  • Contribution Quiets the Ego

      Lately my clients have been experiencing “crises” of the ego. That part of you that wants to be recognized. That part of you that feels wronged when you get less recognition for that project on which you did equal work as your coworker(s). People often banish the ego to the “shadow self” or dark side of the personality, ignoring it or otherwise sweeping it under the rug; similar to people’s reaction to fear. Also like fear, our ego can inform us.   Maybe we do need to stand up and ask for recognition for something. But more often than not, the ego feels like a child who is crying…