• Honor Your “No”

    Q+A sessions at Angel Summit last weekend is where my favorite speakers became my favorite speakers. It’s all bc they each said “no.” “I can’t answer that, it has to be your decision.” “I can’t possibly make that call.” “I’m sorry for what you’re going through, and I’m not qualified to answer that for you.” “I can’t be your mentor… I want to be home at 3pm to make my kid a snack when they get home from school.” Our “yes” muscle has been conditioned quite well, and is generally far stronger than our “no” muscle. Especially in business. With business being an area still largely steeped in masculine energy,…

  • Choose it or Change it

    For a very long time my grandparents had a pre-remote TV. Any time I wanted to change the channel or volume, I had to get up from the couch or floor, walk over to the TV and adjust it. Of course at the time I couldn’t appreciate the beauty of that old pre-remote TV. Because of the pace at which everyone is moving (and expected to move), I view taking the time and effort to consciously choose something as a luxury rather than inconvenience. Making conscious (without external pressure or internal reactivity) choices is a sign of mindfulness, power, and authenticity. Stepping away from the automatic responses and outdated belief systems that…

  • Patience Pays Off

    You talk about losing it like it’s something that is ever firmly in your grasp. But patience feels more like something floating around in the air you just hope gets close enough for you to grab. Grasping, grabbing, clutching, holding tightly is not the nature of patience. Patience is achieved when one surrenders, not fights. Patience is something to  S O F T E N  into, to breathe into. And it starts with you. When you have patience with yourself, you will find it easier to have patience with others. Quit being a jerk to yourself, because eventually it trickles out to the other people in your life. You don’t…