• Keep Your Eyes on the Horizon

    Keep your eyes on the horizon. This phrase is used across a variety of disciplines including sailing, hiking, driving, and investing. In driving it means keeping your focus on farthest point of the road you can see (towards the horizon line) which enables you to see — and react to — what’s happening on the whole road rather than just the car in front of you. In coaching, “keep your eyes on the horizon” means keeping your mid-to-long-term goals in mind to help organize shorter-term goals. When you know what you want to accomplish in 3-6 months, it’s easier for you to set 1-month benchmarks that you can work towards…

  • Patience Pays Off

    You talk about losing it like it’s something that is ever firmly in your grasp. But patience feels more like something floating around in the air you just hope gets close enough for you to grab. Grasping, grabbing, clutching, holding tightly is not the nature of patience. Patience is achieved when one surrenders, not fights. Patience is something to  S O F T E N  into, to breathe into. And it starts with you. When you have patience with yourself, you will find it easier to have patience with others. Quit being a jerk to yourself, because eventually it trickles out to the other people in your life. You don’t…

  • Contribution Quiets the Ego

      Lately my clients have been experiencing “crises” of the ego. That part of you that wants to be recognized. That part of you that feels wronged when you get less recognition for that project on which you did equal work as your coworker(s). People often banish the ego to the “shadow self” or dark side of the personality, ignoring it or otherwise sweeping it under the rug; similar to people’s reaction to fear. Also like fear, our ego can inform us.   Maybe we do need to stand up and ask for recognition for something. But more often than not, the ego feels like a child who is crying…