an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger
b (1) : an instance of this emotion (2) : a state marked by this emotion
Fear causes inaction. Inevitably there is something that you would like to do– take a trip, go back to school, start a business, ask someone out, break up with someone– that you are not doing. Why are you not doing it? You’re scared.
Your initial reaction may be one of
denial disbelief, but if you dig deeper, I would wager that you will find that you are not taking action on what you want to because of fear. Whether it is the fear of failing, being alone, succeeding (yeah, that’s a thing), or something else entirely, inaction stems from a fear of something.
Great, now what? Tim Ferriss offers a great insight-finding tool in his book The Four Hour Work Week that can be applied to almost any scenario in which you experience fear. Below are five questions (paraphrased from Tim’s book) that you can ask yourself to help explore your fear and put it in perspective:
1. Define your fear
2. What steps would you take to get things back on track, even if temporarily?
3. What are the outcomes or benefits, both temporary or permanent, of more probable scenarios?
4. What is [putting off what you want to do] costing you– financially, emotionally, and physically?
5. What are you waiting for?
That last one may seem rhetorical, even sarcastic, but is legitimate; what are you waiting for that would make you less hesitant about taking action towards what you’d like to do?
There it is, you’re out of excuses, the only thing left to do is to GO LIVE YOUR DREAM AND DON’T LOOK BACK!!!
Okay, maybe it’s not that simple. Fear is a complicated emotion to contend with; hopefully this will help you better process fear so that it doesn’t get in the way of you living a life you love quite as much.
Go ahead and write down (at least ponder, mull over, or otherwise think about) your answers to the above questions to help put one fear into perspective. Also, share this with someone; we forget that fear is a universal feeling (the only exceptions are sociopaths, who experience little-to-no feelings of connection… you’re probably not friends with any) and it is comforting to be reminded that we are not alone in our experience of