Acceptance,  Action,  Compassion

Radical Self Acceptance: How and Why to do it




  1. (especially of change or action) relating to or affecting the fundamental nature of something; far-reaching or thorough.

Something I learned early on as a student of therapy is that you can have the best-laid plans for a session, but when it comes right down to it, you go where the client takes you; in this case, “the session” is this post and “the client” is my intuition. My plan was to get into a long post about radical self-acceptance, the definition of it, and blah blah blah (yawn)…

Here is the short and sweet of it.

Radical self-acceptance is the idea of accepting oneself wholly and completely; the person you are at the core of your being as well as at the surface, no part of you is left unaccepted (by yourself). “Why?” you might ask…

Because if you don’t, no one else will. The minute that you begin to accept yourself, it will come through and others will do the same. Imagine what can happen as you increase that acceptance and it shifts into you valuing yourself, and then loving yourself? The reason why the plan for this post changed is because I read an interesting book in the last couple days called Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant ( In it he describes his path to not only self-acceptance, but self-love and the way it transformed his life. I encourage you to read it [full transparency, I do not know Mr. Ravikant, nor do I have any affiliation with the book other than being a fan of it].


Actionables: How to start accepting yourself

Any acceptance starts with an acknowledgement. Take (honest) stock of your strengths and shortcomings, and forgive yourself for your shortcomings. This doesn’t mean that you get off scot free to not do anything you’re not great at, but it does allow you to celebrate your strengths and not focus on your “weaknesses,” “opportunities,” et cetera from a place of judgement.

Practice a mantra. Ravikant suggests repeating “I love myself” in your head. I agree. Don’t love yourself? All the more reason to do it! Your thoughts become your beliefs, which then become your actions. Think it and it will come.