• Patience Pays Off

    You talk about losing it like it’s something that is ever firmly in your grasp. But patience feels more like something floating around in the air you just hope gets close enough for you to grab. Grasping, grabbing, clutching, holding tightly is not the nature of patience. Patience is achieved when one surrenders, not fights. Patience is something to  S O F T E N  into, to breathe into. And it starts with you. When you have patience with yourself, you will find it easier to have patience with others. Quit being a jerk to yourself, because eventually it trickles out to the other people in your life. You don’t…

  • Letting Go of "Supposed to"

    Sometimes I feel like society (social media, advertisements, the news) is telling me what I’m “supposed to” do, look, and feel like… I am supposed to have one job and dislike it I am supposed to be exhausted at the end of the day I am supposed to be cellulite and fat free I am supposed to not have “me” time I am supposed to be productive every minute of every day I am supposed to be detoxing, dieting, or otherwise modifying my meals I am supposed to be Strong (with a capital S, and zero vulnerability) I am supposed to be emotionally-controlled at all times (zero tears, and no…

  • The Inner Critic

    The Inner Critic. I don’t know about yours, but mine can get unnecessarily, obnoxiously loud sometimes. And mean. And picky. Mine shows up when I’m trying something new and I have expectations (first mistake) that I’ll perform at a certain level, or when I’m feeling vulnerable in general (i.e. recovering from being sick, or when I’m having “one of those days”). The next thing I know, my Inner Critic starts bringing “shoulds” into the picture, “You should have _______”. It doen’t seem to matter how well I did, or how many things I DID do, my Inner Critic is especially good at highlighting the things I didn’t. And “should have”.…