• Radical Self Acceptance: How and Why to do it

    rad·i·cal ˈradək(ə)l/ adjective (especially of change or action) relating to or affecting the fundamental nature of something; far-reaching or thorough. Something I learned early on as a student of therapy is that you can have the best-laid plans for a session, but when it comes right down to it, you go where the client takes you; in this case, “the session” is this post and “the client” is my intuition. My plan was to get into a long post about radical self-acceptance, the definition of it, and blah blah blah (yawn)… Here is the short and sweet of it. Radical self-acceptance is the idea of accepting oneself wholly and completely;…

  • The Inner Critic

    The Inner Critic. I don’t know about yours, but mine can get unnecessarily, obnoxiously loud sometimes. And mean. And picky. Mine shows up when I’m trying something new and I have expectations (first mistake) that I’ll perform at a certain level, or when I’m feeling vulnerable in general (i.e. recovering from being sick, or when I’m having “one of those days”). The next thing I know, my Inner Critic starts bringing “shoulds” into the picture, “You should have _______”. It doen’t seem to matter how well I did, or how many things I DID do, my Inner Critic is especially good at highlighting the things I didn’t. And “should have”.…